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ADDICTION: WHAT TO DO WHEN HELP IS NEEDED BUT NOT WANTED
Reprint from Psychology Today http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/shrink-wrap/201305/amanda-bynes-what-do-when-help-is-needed-not-wanted
Amanda Bynes has been in the news recently after a flurry of erratic behavior both in the real world and on Twitter. Drama peaked this week when she was allegedly caught in possession of drug paraphernalia and arrested. Two mug shots were circulated, one of Bynes wearing a flamboyant platinum wig and the second with the wig removed revealing
a new super-cropped haircut. Since the incident, she’s lashed out at
Rihanna on Twitter saying she had been beaten by Chris Brown for being “not pretty enough.”
The child star has been having trouble for a while, including an arrest in 2012 for a DUI.
Last month she announced that she had aneating disorder and posted a
photo of herself wearing only a bra. Since then she’s been sharing
increasingly inappropriate photos of herself on Twitter. For those of
us on the outside, it is like watching a train wreck: we can see it
happening but there really isn’t anything we can do. But what about
those close to her? Is there anything they can do? And what can you do
if you have a friend or family member spinning out of control?
In Bynes’ case it is hard to know yet if she is dealing with a drug
problem, a mental health condition, or something else, but one thing is
for sure, she needs help. The reality is, though, she doesn’t seem to be
taking it. This is something many of us can relate to, the desperate
pull to want to help someone in trouble who is flat out refusing to
accept it. Your instinct is to throw them a rope, but they just swim in
the other direction and cut themselves off from those who love them.
friends and family coming together as a united front and doing an
intervention can cut through the refusal to help. If that doesn’t work,
you might consider getting out of their way; on occasion a person has to
hit rock bottom before they really take their problem seriously and are
willing to accept help. So often people deny the severity of their
situation and continue to think they can handle themselves and that they
are okay. Realize that unless and until they experience the full impact
of their behavior, they may remain unwilling to do anything about it to
isn’t until they reach their lowest point that they can fully
appreciate the seriousness of what they are dealing with, and grasp the
importance of getting assistance. It is only then that they will want
help and reach out to get it, or accept what is being offered. Of
course, stepping aside isn’t an easy thing to do. You might feel
helpless because they are at risk – if they are dealing with a drug
problem the fear
is an overdose, if they are mentally ill then you might be worried that
they will be self-destructive. The truth is, though, that the more you
attempt to help them, the more likely it is that they pull away and
isolate themselves further. If you can curb your desire to help so you
stop battling with them, then the only person they are fighting is
themself and they might finally be able to reach out and or accept help.
also that if their out-of-control behavior continues to escalate, at
some point either the legal system or the mental health system is likely
to get involved so that seeking help will no longer be a matter of
choice, but rather a necessity.
difficult as it can be, sometimes the only option when someone is
refusing help is to stop offering. Hopefully this will be the case for
Amanda and those who know and love her, and she’ll be ready to accept
true support on her own soon.